Read these 49 Parenting Help Tips tips to make your life smarter, better, faster and wiser. Each tip is approved by our Editors and created by expert writers so great we call them Gurus. LifeTips is the place to go when you need to know about Mom tips and hundreds of other topics.
Gather together 3 or 4 toys that can be water toys. They will become special "potty" toys that can only be played with while the child is sitting on the potty! Once the child is sitting on the potty fill a large bowl or small bucket with lukewarm or tepid water, place the new "potty" toys in the bowl and set the bowl of water in front of the child. When the child places his/her hands in the lukewarm water to play with the toys, if the child needs to go potty, the warm water will help to speed up the process.
This is especially important for teenagers who will be heading off to college: If your child doesn't have a checking account, open one now and help her learn how to write checks, use ATMs, and balance her account. Be sure to talk to your child about credit cards, since credit card companies target college students. Help them to understand interest, minimum monthly payments and the ramifications of a poor credit record.
Tantrums are a normal part of your child's development and are often caused because they are frustrated at not being able to do something. You can't prevent all tantrums, so don't feel guilty about them. Often children have tantrums as a way of getting attention, but if you give in, it will only be an incentive for them to continue!
Week after week I watch my daughter and the neighbor girl playing with numerous toys scattered throughout the yard. Week after week this little girl would go home leaving the toys for my daughter to pick up. I finally had to set some ground rules...if you want to play with all the toys, you must also help put them away. Otherwise you will not get to play with them next time you come over. It has worked like a charm.
There are other things to consider, as well. Perhaps the "rubbing" or stimulation of her external genitalia ('private parts') by the texture of a diaper is what she requires to stimulate, relax and start a stream. Try having her wear a smaller size of underwear to reproduce the sensation. If this issue is not dealt with, you could run the risk of over-extending the bladder beyond its normal capacity. She may need to be taught other exercises similar to those you learned in prenatal classes... start a stream, stop and hold, release and repeat. Again, this would help her identify the muscles needed for passing water and how to help relax them.
To help your children make good decisions, talk with them about why values such as honesty, self-reliance, and responsibility are important. Teach your child how each decision builds on previous decisions as one's character is formed, and how a good decision makes the next decision easier.
When natural consequences don't seem to work for your child it's probably because the "consequence" is not important. For example, if you tell your adolescent, "I won't wash any of your clothes that aren't in the clothes hamper," will not work effectively for a child who doesn't care whether he wears clean or dirty clothes. Use whatever your child nags you about (staying up later, for example) to your advantage.
Parents assume, sometimes mistakenly, that children have "absorbed" values even though they may be rarely or never discussed. You can test your child's understanding by discussing some common situations; for example, "What would you do if the person ahead of you in line at the theater dropped a dollar bill?"
Every member of your family needs a relationship with you. It is important to spend time with each member separately. Get to know your children as individuals. That may mean taking your daughter to the mall, or your son on a fishing trip. Remember to take your spouse on a date, too!
Yellow/jaundiced baby? Newborn's livers are not fully functioning when born. Give your baby his own photo therapy (what hospitals do with fancy machines) by stripping him, covering his eyes, placing him beside a sunny window and let him "sunbathe" for 10 - 20 minutes. Watch for sunburn if it is mid-afternoon.
A spastic bladder is a phrase given when there is interference with the nerve messages from the spinal cord to the neck of the bladder. Because your daughter will urinate in a diaper, then I suspect that the nerves do, indeed, work. She is consciously and/or deliberately exerting control over this bodily function. The whole concept of "control" may be one to step back and take a look at.
Don't pressure your children to play together, go places together, be affectionate together, etc. Allow them the opportunity to find their own activities and interests away from their sibling. Children who are given the freedom NOT to interact with their siblings, generally enjoy their sibling relations much more when they ARE together.
Clinginess and separation anxiety first shows around seven months of age. Talk calmly and quietly to the child using terms of reference that they will understand. For example, saying "I'll be back in 2 hours" is meaningless to them, but "I'll be back after you wake up from your nap" may strike a familiar chord.
Often without even realizing it, parents send signals by their actions that it's all right to duck unpleasant duties or to be dishonest. Telling your child to say that you are not at home because a phone call comes at an inconvenient time is, in effect, teaching your child that it is all right to be dishonest.
Wariness of strangers and fear of being abandoned combine to make children overly anxious (separation anxiety), even if it is a relative caring for them in your absence. Calmly say your farewells, promise to return after a familiar activity, like naptime or the completion of a regular T.V. program, give a reassuring hug and kiss, and GO. The alternate caregiver then has the responsibility for the child's well being. Leave him or her to perform the tasks without your interference.
You've tried running out of diapers and making her wait for longer periods of time before taking her shopping for replacements. For my 4 year old son, I stored the jumbo packs in the trunk of my car, out of sight for a while, to get him used to the idea that he was old enough to use the facilities. I am glad you wrote and are ready for some assistance. Please try not to get stressed beyond your own limits. It is too difficult to hide the stress and not pass it on, unintentionally, to your daughter. Good luck. When you do succeed (and I'm sure you will) Please let me know what finally worked for you.
Although parents first notice clinginess at around six to seven months, it can recur whenever your child is feeling insecure. Reassure them and guide them through the situation to help their confidence grow. Talk to them in a reassuring, quiet voice, and in language that they will understand.
If your teenager complains that you are asking her to do too many things, then reply, "If I can't ask you to do things for me, you can't ask me to do things for you." After a while, the teen will become aware that she's getting the short end of the deal and that you do more for her than she realized. Be ready to cooperate once your teen becomes enlightened.
When you are 4 years old, there are really very few things in life that you have sole control over. Parental control over just about everything is foremost. Some children are ready for more control over their own lives, and bladder and bowel control are one way to show they can be responsible. What else is she expected to do, independently and daily, for which a lot of attention (good or bad) is paid? For example, is she allowed to choose her own clothes? Or do you as a concerned parent influence her decision by denying a plaid and floral combination, etc.?
By the time your child has entered Grade 12, you probably have a pretty good idea of how responsible s/he is on a day to day basis. You also are familiar with their friends, and have even met their friend's parents through common activities like school, church and sports. Group dating is certainly an option to start breaking the protectiveness that is natural to parenting, and try to believe that your son or daughter will continue to act wisely and safely outside of your direct supervision.
Always make sure that your child is safe when he is having a tantrum, as some children will throw themselves about a lot. You may try to distract him by suggesting that you'll do something else, but don't offer material things like sweets, as this will be seen as a reward for the tantrum.