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Help Your Teenager Handle Money
This is especially important for teenagers who will be heading off to college: If your child doesnīt have a checking account, open one now and help her learn how to write checks, use ATMs, and balance her account. Be sure to talk to your child about credit cards, since credit card companies target college students. Help them to understand interest, minimum monthly payments and the ramifications of a poor credit record.
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Making Decisions Based on Values
To help your children make good decisions, talk with them about why values such as honesty, self-reliance, and responsibility are important. Teach your child how each decision builds on previous decisions as oneīs character is formed, and how a good decision makes the next decision easier.
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The Importance of Routines
Staying in a routine is the best way to keep things orderly, and to get everyone working together.
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Arguments: When to Intervene
Stay out of school age childrenīs arguments as much as you can. By all means interrupt if their words deteriorate into actions that may harm themselves or others.
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Potty Training Trick
Gather together 3 or 4 toys that can be water toys. They will become special "potty" toys that can only be played with while the child is sitting on the potty! Once the child is sitting on the potty fill a large bowl or small bucket with lukewarm or tepid water, place the new "potty" toys in the bowl and set the bowl of water in front of the child. When the child places his/her hands in the lukewarm water to play with the toys, if the child needs to go potty, the warm water will help to speed up the process.
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New Baby
Let your toddler help with the new baby as much as possible. This helps the older child feel less jealous, and is rewarding for the whole family!
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Backyard Play
Week after week I watch my daughter and the neighbor girl playing with numerous toys scattered throughout the yard. Week after week this little girl would go home leaving the toys for my daughter to pick up. I finally had to set some ground rules...if you want to play with all the toys, you must also help put them away. Otherwise you will not get to play with them next time you come over. It has worked like a charm.
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Temper Tantrums
Tantrums are a normal part of your child's development and are often caused because they are frustrated at not being able to do something. You can't prevent all tantrums, so don't feel guilty about them. Often children have tantrums as a way of getting attention, but if you give in, it will only be an incentive for them to continue!
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Letting Go
A balancing act must be practiced by parents ... willingness to let them try and fail, and a non-judgmental, supportive environment. Next year at college, you wonīt be there beside them. Let them learn while they are still under your roof.
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Enforce One rule
Make discipline rules "generic" so you can use in different settings. e.g. "Keep your feet off the furniture" Now if they jump on a bed, climb up on a counter, or stand on a chair or table, you have one rule to enforce.
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Peer Pressure
Since peer pressure is so powerful, find organizations and groups that have healthy peers to influence your teenager. Take teens to church youth groups, community recreation programs, and police-sponsored activity leagues. (If you donīt have one in your area start one up!)
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When to Go
Most people (kids included) wake up with a very full bladder in the morning. When potty training your child, make sure the first thing they do in the morning is to sit on the potty. Theyīll get accustomed to using it, and will develop a habit of going when they wake up.
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Getting Teens to Talk
Be completely accessible even though it is hard -- be ready to listen anytime and anywhere. Teens want to talk at odd times. Also, use questions sparingly.
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The Birds & The Bees Talk
Research what you donīt know or are unsure about. Be open to questions from your teen. Try not to come across in an authoritarian manner. Try to talk with your teen in a place where you wonīt be disturbed and where they feel comfortable.
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Effective Use of Consequences
When natural consequences donīt seem to work for your child itīs probably because the "consequence" is not important. For example, if you tell your adolescent, "I wonīt wash any of your clothes that arenīt in the clothes hamper," will not work effectively for a child who doesnīt care whether he wears clean or dirty clothes. Use whatever your child nags you about (staying up later, for example) to your advantage.
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Testing Their Values
Parents assume, sometimes mistakenly, that children have "absorbed" values even though they may be rarely or never discussed. You can test your childīs understanding by discussing some common situations; for example, "What would you do if the person ahead of you in line at the theater dropped a dollar bill?"
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One on One
Every member of your family needs a relationship with you. It is important to spend time with each member separately. Get to know your children as individuals. That may mean taking your daughter to the mall, or your son on a fishing trip. Remember to take your spouse on a date, too!
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Newborn Jaundice
Yellow/jaundiced baby? Newbornīs livers are not fully functioning when born. Give your baby his own photo therapy (what hospitals do with fancy machines) by stripping him, covering his eyes, placing him beside a sunny window and let him "sunbathe" for 10 - 20 minutes. Watch for sunburn if it is mid-afternoon.
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Snacks after dinner
Donīt sabotage your own efforts at nighttime toilet training. Stop all drinks and food at least one hour before bedtime. If bedwetting or wet diapers result, try limiting snacks 1-1/2 hours before bed.
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Leave Them Alone ... Literally
Donīt pressure your children to play together, go places together, be affectionate together, etc. Allow them the opportunity to find their own activities and interests away from their sibling. Children who are given the freedom NOT to interact with their siblings, generally enjoy their sibling relations much more when they ARE together.
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Is Control really the issue?
A spastic bladder is a phrase given when there is interference with the nerve messages from the spinal cord to the neck of the bladder. Because your daughter will urinate in a diaper, then I suspect that the nerves do, indeed, work. She is consciously and/or deliberately exerting control over this bodily function. The whole concept of "control" may be one to step back and take a look at.
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Emotions
Never belittle your children for they will learn to resent you.
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Talking with Teens
For effective communication with teenagers, you should be totally honest, even if this means self-disclosure. (Teens will realize that parents are not perfect and that being human means self acceptance.)
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Time Out: How Long?
"Time Outs" work. Try 1 minute for every year old the child is e.g. 10 yrs, 10 min.
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Short List Rules
Keep your house rules to a minimum. This way you can enforce them without fail.
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Watch What You Say
When disciplining your child, try to tell them what you DO want and expect of them rather than what you DONīT want. This increases the feelings of cooperation and respect, and reduces the number of power struggles you may have.
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Honesty - Set a Good Example
Often without even realizing it, parents send signals by their actions that itīs all right to duck unpleasant duties or to be dishonest. Telling your child to say that you are not at home because a phone call comes at an inconvenient time is, in effect, teaching your child that it is all right to be dishonest.
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Why is my child so clingy?
Clinginess and separation anxiety first shows around seven months of age. Talk calmly and quietly to the child using terms of reference that they will understand. For example, saying "Iīll be back in 2 hours" is meaningless to them, but "Iīll be back after you wake up from your nap" may strike a familiar chord.
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Learning to walk
Babies often tiptoe as they are mastering the skill of walking. As your child gets stronger and better at walking you will notice that he/she no longer needs to do this.
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Why is my child so clingy?
Wariness of strangers and fear of being abandoned combine to make children overly anxious (separation anxiety), even if it is a relative caring for them in your absence. Calmly say your farewells, promise to return after a familiar activity, like naptime or the completion of a regular T.V. program, give a reassuring hug and kiss, and GO. The alternate caregiver then has the responsibility for the childīs well being. Leave him or her to perform the tasks without your interference.
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Stimulating sensations
There are other things to consider, as well. Perhaps the "rubbing" or stimulation of her external genitalia (īprivate partsī) by the texture of a diaper is what she requires to stimulate, relax and start a stream. Try having her wear a smaller size of underwear to reproduce the sensation. If this issue is not dealt with, you could run the risk of over-extending the bladder beyond its normal capacity. She may need to be taught other exercises similar to those you learned in prenatal classes... start a stream, stop and hold, release and repeat. Again, this would help her identify the muscles needed for passing water and how to help relax them.
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Look Before You Leap
Stop, think, then go... This is what I have always taught my son. I now realize that if we, as parents, stop before we get angry, think before we react, and then go, this world would be happier place to live in.
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Sure Fire Way to Get Cooperation
When stating your expectations, avoid the use of fighting words -- those that start a battle even before the rest of the sentence is heard! They are words such as canīt, donīt, no, and stop!
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Life with kids
Do you remember how to be a kid? Making weird faces, dancing in the rain, and lots of laughter will always lighten the moment.
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Oops, I forgot to buy more diapers!
Youīve tried running out of diapers and making her wait for longer periods of time before taking her shopping for replacements. For my 4 year old son, I stored the jumbo packs in the trunk of my car, out of sight for a while, to get him used to the idea that he was old enough to use the facilities. I am glad you wrote and are ready for some assistance. Please try not to get stressed beyond your own limits. It is too difficult to hide the stress and not pass it on, unintentionally, to your daughter. Good luck. When you do succeed (and Iīm sure you will) Please let me know what finally worked for you.
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Temper Tantrums
If you can't distract him, and you're sure that he's safe, then just ignore him until he's over it. Remember that children love to be with you, and they'll often end a tantrum so they can come and find you.
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Protect Your Mattress
Invest in a plastic mattress cover for all beds that your toddler sleeps in. If a bedwetting incident happens and changing the linen is not an option, cover the area with a towel and change in the morning.
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Listen to Your Kids
Spend time listening to your child. That is all they really want. Not advice, not questions. They will tell you everything if you let them.
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Promises, Promises
Start early with this basic discipline approach." Practice what you preach". "Make good on your promises". Never offer a deterring statement or action you are not willing to enforce.
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Encouraging successful Toilet Training
Remind yourself daily that your toddler is just learning a new skill. If an "accident" happens, it is NOT a mistake, just an inconvenience to you. Try to praise any little attempt your child made to avoid the situation.
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Why is my child so clingy?
Although parents first notice clinginess at around six to seven months, it can recur whenever your child is feeling insecure. Reassure them and guide them through the situation to help their confidence grow. Talk to them in a reassuring, quiet voice, and in language that they will understand.
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Improve eye - hand co-ordination
Summer is the best time to help improve your childīs reaction time, visual acuity, accuracy, and speed all at once. How? Give him or her a fly swatter and point them to their first target. Hours... no, days of fun!
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Getting Teens to Cooperate
If your teenager complains that you are asking her to do too many things, then reply, "If I canīt ask you to do things for me, you canīt ask me to do things for you." After a while, the teen will become aware that sheīs getting the short end of the deal and that you do more for her than she realized. Be ready to cooperate once your teen becomes enlightened.
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Challenges of Potty Training
Potty training is hard. Hold your temper and do not push your child beyond his capabilities.
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Dating Dilemma
By the time your child has entered Grade 12, you probably have a pretty good idea of how responsible s/he is on a day to day basis. You also are familiar with their friends, and have even met their friendīs parents through common activities like school, church and sports. Group dating is certainly an option to start breaking the protectiveness that is natural to parenting, and try to believe that your son or daughter will continue to act wisely and safely outside of your direct supervision.
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Temper, temper!
Always make sure that your child is safe when he is having a tantrum, as some children will throw themselves about a lot. You may try to distract him by suggesting that you'll do something else, but don't offer material things like sweets, as this will be seen as a reward for the tantrum.
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Weaning Children Off the Bottle
No one likes to hear their one year old scream all night long because they canīt have a bottle, but when your childīs teeth start to rot out, you will wish you had tolerated the noise!
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Censored!
Learn how to block the channels on both your television and computer as the content becomes offensive to you.
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Choosing between a diaper or the toilet
When you are 4 years old, there are really very few things in life that you have sole control over. Parental control over just about everything is foremost. Some children are ready for more control over their own lives, and bladder and bowel control are one way to show they can be responsible. What else is she expected to do, independently and daily, for which a lot of attention (good or bad) is paid? For example, is she allowed to choose her own clothes? Or do you as a concerned parent influence her decision by denying a plaid and floral combination, etc.?
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